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Coquelicot's work has evolved through her more than 20 years of experience of being a minister with the Association & Integration of the Whole Person (AIWP). To every session, Coquelicot brings her intuition and vast knowledge base. Then she gets out of the way to let something else arise; she makes room for a larger knowledge, and invites grace to enter. Coquelicot has a capacity for deep listening, listening beyond the limits of her personality and academic learning. By dropping and melting into something much larger than herself, she becomes simultaneously a student and a teacher, a facilitator and a catalyst. From there, she supports people to free themselves from the internal obstacles that block their innate ability to access this source directly.

The Quest for Wilhelm Reich

– Colin Wilson

All this fascinated me. It had not been long since I had come across A. E. Van Vogt's 'Right Man' theory, and it struck me as one of the most significant developments in psychology since Freud. I have written about this else­where, but its relevance in the present context is so great that I make no apology for trying to summarize it here. Briefly: in reading reports of divorce cases, Van Vogt became aware of how often they involved a personality-type that he labelled the Right Man or the Violent Man. Such men had an obsession with being in the right; under no circumstances could they acknowledge the possibility that they might be wrong. And if someone is tactless enough to try to force them to recognize it, they explode into violence. In the home they behave like tyrants, demanding total submission and obedience from wife and children. The least suspicion of infidelity or disloyalty, no matter how ill-founded, is enough to drive them into a frenzy. Yet they themselves are perfectly capable of sexual lapses — sexual conquest is important to their self-esteem — and expect the partner to treat these with tolerance.

In short, the Right Man is a man whose whole life revolves around his sense of his own importance; the least challenge to this strikes him as unforgivable. Since our social lives have to be governed by rules of politeness, his colleagues and acquaintances may not even notice that he is a Right Man. But those who live in close proximity to him become accustomed to having to live according to his rules, or to encounter the full force of his resentment.

There is, of course, a degree of Right-Mannishness in most of us; nobody enjoys having his self-esteem woun­ded. And a human being without self-esteem is either a saint or a useless weakling. It follows that people who are slightly above average in talent or intelligence or do­minance are more likely to develop into Right Men than the rest of us. One of the commonest types is the man whose dominance is slightly higher than his intelligence or imagination, so that he feels that his merits are not being recognized, but lacks the insight to see that this is his own fault.

Right Men with political power — like Hitler or Stalin —are terrifying. But Right Men who regard themselves as 'intellectuals' can be almost as dangerous; they are inclined to see themselves as messiahs. On a certain level, their ideas may be brilliant and perceptive — like those of Karl Marx or Mao Tse-tung. But at a certain point, the factor of resentment creeps in, and the ideas are distorted by obsessions and vendettas.

Right Men are made, not born. 'Rightness' involves a degree of self-deception; it can happen little by little, over many years: the fabrication of excuses for convincing oneself that certain painful misjudgements never hap­pened, that it was the fault of other people ... Dogmatism is substituted for open-mindedness, bullying for persuasion.

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Coquelicot teaches didactically, experientially and by example. She brings to each session a lifetime's worth of tools, exercises and practices that I use at home to further my own development. Her genius combines intuition, sensing and a comprehensive knowledge of human emotional and biological development. What I've learned from her has not only given me a deeper understanding of my own patterns, dynamics and behaviors, it's also enhanced my understanding of others. I am a far more compassionate person thanks Coquelicot. In fact to the degree that I am a more evolved being in any regard, Coquelicot was instrumental in my transformation.

-L. M. Artist and wellness ally

"Dear God:

Please untie the knots that are in my mind, my heart and my life. Remove the have nots, the can nots and the do nots that I have in my mind. Erase the will nots,
may nots,
might nots that may find a home in my heart.
Release me from the could nots, would nots and should nots that obstruct my life.
And most of all,
Dear God,
I ask that you remove from my mind,
my heart and my life, all of the 'am nots' that I have allowed to hold me back, especially the thought that I am not good enough. Amen."
- Author unknown, The Knots Prayer

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