Pastoral Counseling: Including End of Life Transitional Counseling and Coping with Chronic Illness.

Working with people who would like to generally evolve further along their spiritual path or are wrestling with the meaning of life because they are dealing with major life transitions that require a spiritual and larger overarching perspective.

Pastoral Counseling

Third Force

The overarching presence that guides our work.

To every session, Coquelicot brings her intuition and her vast knowledge base. Then she gets out of the way to let something else arise; she makes room for a larger knowledge, and invites grace to enter. Coquelicot has a capacity for deep listening, listening beyond the limits of her personality and academic learning. By dropping and melting into something much larger than herself, she becomes simultaneously a student and teacher, a facilitator and a catalyst. From there she supports people to free themselves from the internal obstacles that block their innate ability to access this source directly

Major Life Transition Counseling: Major life transitions – birth, the death of a loved one, divorce, a health crisis – can stretch us beyond the limits of our known capacities. They can leave us floundering and can bring up a crisis of faith that leaves us questioning our place in the world. When our lives are disrupted by extreme stress it can be difficult to assess our needs and limitations - we don't always see what we're missing. At such times a fresh perspective can be invaluable.

In addition to her many years of formal education in a variety of healing traditions, Coquelicot has, like many of us negotiated a challenging early childhood. Her next teacher arrived in the form of a chronic life-threatening illness that persisted for several decades. Higher education appears in many guises, which Coquelicot came to understand even more deeply as she tended to many people close to her through their living into dying process and death.

Through each transition she has honed her skills and developed new ones, learning to rest in the mutuality of her inner and outer resources. For all people seeking help in deep transition, Coquelicot provides her precise and grounded perspective to help you see a wider range of possibilities, and engage life with an expanded repertoire of responses through deepening each person's unique relationship to third force awareness.

End of Life Transition Counseling: If you are facing severe chronic illness or grappling with end-of-life logistics or concerns and questions of a spiritual nature, I can both advise and support you along that path.

"I long ago ceased seeing myself as a victim. I've come to embrace every challenge that life presents as an invitation to grow stronger, more resilient, and increasingly openhearted. It gives me deep satisfaction to help others find more space and joy in life."

Pastoral Counseling sessions are by donation. The work that we do together is of intangible spiritual benefit and no monetary value can be placed on it.

The suggested donation is: $100 for 50 minutes and $200 for 1 hr 45 minutes. To set up a Pastoral Counseling session please contact the personal assistant at 530-575-8207. These sessions are set up specially and are not part of our online scheduling site.

Essence is emptiness.
Everything else, accidental.
Emptiness brings peace to your loving.
Everything else, disease.
In this world of trickery emptiness
is what your soul wants.
- Rumi

"Dissolver of sugar, dissolve me if this is the time. Do it gently with the touch of a hand, or look. Every morning I wake at dawn. That's when it happened before. Or do it suddenly like an execution how else can I get ready for death? You breeze without a body like a spark. You grieve, and I begin to feel lighter. You keep me away with your arm, but keeping away is pulling me in pale sunlight, pale the wall. Love moves away. The light changes. I need more grace than I thought."

" Consider the possibility – even as a fantasy – that reality is much more flexible, responsive and lively than you were taught. Imagine that what our teachers perceive as the qualities of reality: lovingness, intelligence, power, and helpfulness may actually be true and possible for you to experience. Risk asking for help, even when it's apparently impossible. (Ask as body/energy/mind in union as awareness - or your best approximation of that.) Assume a blessing in response, even if you can't recognize it. Accept the blessing.
-Julie Henderson, Zapchen

"Let go of your worries
and be completely clear-hearted,
like the face of a mirror
that contains no images.
If you want a clear mirror,
behold yourself
and see the shameless truth,
which the mirror reflects.
If metal can be polished
to a mirror-like finish,
what polishing might the mirror
of the heart require?
Between the mirror and the heart
is this single difference:
the heart conceals secrets,
while the mirror does not. "
- The Divani Shamsi Tabriz, XIII

"This is love: to fly to heaven, every moment to rend a hundred veils;
At first instance, to break away from breath -- first step, to renounce feet;
To disregard this world, to see only that which you yourself have seen .
I said, "Heart, congratulations on entering the circle of lovers,
"On gazing beyond the range of the eye, on running into the alley of the breasts."
Whence came this breath, O heart? Whence came this throbbing, O heart?
Bird, speak the tongue of birds: I can heed your cipher!
The heart said, "I was in the factory whilst the home of water and clay was abaking.
"I was flying from the workshop whilst the workshop was being created.
"When I could no more resist, they dragged me; how shall I
tell the manner of that dragging?"
- Rumi

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